“Where have all the good men gone?” … [ And why are all the good women silent? ]
To borrow a line of thought from an old, familiar song,"Where have all the flowers gone?" Sitting here today, the dark side of my
nature wonders briefly ...for just a fleeting moment: if, in truth, there ever were any... But that thought all too quickly passes as my inner light gently whispers its never-fading hope that Peace and Love will prevail. Thus, I shall do my very best to push aside the
negative influences of my interactions with some men in my own personal life (the
reasons for my dark nights and horrible nightmares) and try to be semi-diplomatic
as I venture forth into the murky waters of the controversy of this day.
The word "hypocrisy" is ringing rather loudly in my ears as I try to compose my thoughts …
“Hypocrisy is the homage that vice pays to virtue.”
~La Rochefoucauld
~La Rochefoucauld
Ah, Glorious Hypocrisy … The mantle of our American society in
this day and age, especially, I would have to say. Then again, thinking back to days long since
gone by … before modern day birth control … images of brothels, whores,
bastards and marital infidelity spring readily to mind so perhaps this
hypocrisy is long-lived and deep rooted after all?
Why is it that whenever the subject of birth control comes
onto the table the narrative goes straight to the sexual promiscuity of a woman
who would want to use birth control in the first place? The fact that women having access to birth control gives
all the Viagra-addled men running around in our modern-day society an outlet
for their drug-induced state aside … not all women who would use birth control
desire this option as an enabler to be sexually promiscuous. Many women use
birth control pills to regulate and balance hormones. A large percentage of
women who choose to use birth control are married women who want to have a
modicum of control over their reproductive health … women who want to have a
say as to when they will have children, how many children they will have and
the spacing of those children. A woman
being able to have a say in making these choices is empowered to have
aspirations in addition to bearing and raising children. A woman who has a
degree of control over her reproductive health can have a career, working
outside the home if she so desires, and be able to compete on a more level
playing field with her male counterparts.
A part of me wonders if this is the real threat to men like Rush Limbaugh,
Bill O’Reilly, and other religious conservatives who continually insist on bringing the narrative back to sexual promiscuity; they fear women who are
empowered. Without birth control women can be kept in their ‘proper place’ and
all that currently ails our misguided modern-day society would then be 'miraculously' healed?
With the defeat of the “Blunt Amendment” in the U.S. Senate
earlier in the week, the contraception mandate‘issue’ has evolved beyond being a “freedom of conscience (religious)” issue: now
it’s a fiscal issue, right? “We should
all be up in arms that the government wants to use our 'taxpayer dollars' (*see
below) to fund the sexual promiscuity of women!” shout the angry white
men. And I only say ‘white’ because as
of yet, I’ve not heard any other men --or women for that matter-- shouting this
rhetoric from their media pulpits.
Seriously? Do we really want to go there: the ‘moral test’ to determine
valid medical conditions to be covered under universal healthcare insurance
packages?
I find Bill O’Reilly’s argument in his on-air commentary
this evening –“Talking-points Memo”-- that birth control and Viagra are not
equivalent because, paraphrasing … “Viagra addresses a legitimate medical
condition in a man and birth control does not do the same thing for a woman” … to
be laughable, at best (albeit a shrill, mocking laugh). Hormone imbalance is a medical condition, Mr. O’Reilly,
and so is pregnancy. It’s not apples and
oranges as you dismissively suggested after all. And if, as you suggest, you
don’t want “[your] my hard-earned tax dollars* used to fund [law student’s]
sexual activities” or any woman’s sexual promiscuity, then why would you be
okay with enabling and paying for a man’s sexual promiscuity. If a woman can abstain, so can a man, right?
Why is a man’s need to engage in sex any more valid than a woman’s? You say you
don’t want the government "in our bedrooms", Mr. O'Reilly, but to follow your line of
reasoning we would need someone --dare I say, the dreaded government?-- to establish legitimate criteria for "enabling
sexual activity" … that is to say, if you follow the argument that a man only wants to
use Viagra so that he can have children verses using Viagra to support his extra-curricular activities.
Furthermore, on the issue of a ‘moral test’ to determine valid
medical conditions to be covered under universal healthcare insurance packages:
what about obesity? “Gluttony” is one of the “seven deadly sins", is it not?
Under the ‘moral test’ line of reasoning, some would argue “why should tax-payer dollars (*see below) be used to pay for
medical conditions that are the direct result of the bad choices made by
individuals who indulge in overeating (e.g., type of diabetes caused by obesity, resultant foot, leg, back problems, heart conditions).” There are likely a
whole host of other medical conditions for which a similar argument could made. Can
you see how the need to
apply a ‘moral test’ in determining valid medical conditions is, in a truth, a
rather weak argument at best and an extremely slippery slope in the long-run.
===>[* "taxpayer dollars" ...the accepted argument being that the cost for covered
services is passed along to the public in the form of higher health insurance
premiums, where carrying of health insurance is mandated by the Federal
Government --“individual mandate”-- in “Obama-care.” Although, technically
speaking, it is not ‘taxpayer dollars’, but rather money taken directly out of
the insurance purchaser’s pocket. I think that the words “taxpayer dollars” are
more of an attention-grabber, used for the express purpose of fueling emotions
which often precludes logical thought processes. Furthermore, no-one is asking
for anything to be “FREE”; women merely want access to affordable contraception medications
and services, which healthcare coverage would undeniably provide. And if we are talking from a purely "cost" perspective here, I would venture that insurance companies would find little difficulty in producing a veritable mountain of data to demonstrate that the costs for contraception medications and services --specifically tubal ligation, hysterectomy and vasectomy-- are considerably lower than the associated costs for: 1) care during pregnancy, 2) delivery of a baby and 3) a new dependent to be added a healthcare policy after the delivery.]<===
I have to give the Democrats a lot of credit on this
“contraception” issue … I have always felt that my interests as a U.S. citizen
were best served by the Republican party. Even when my own personal issues were
not adequately addressed by the Republican Party (hence, my referring to myself
as an ‘Independent Republican’), I reasoned that the Republican Party was the
greater-good for the country as a whole.
I even had a hand in converting my Democrat husband over to the
Republican Party early on in our marriage.
My husband claimed, at the time of his conversion, that “The Democratic
Party is not the party that it used to be any longer.” Sitting here today and
watching the debate on this contraception issue unfold, I am beginning to
wonder if “The Republican Party is not
the party it used to be any longer”?
I just can’t rationalize the paradoxal
stance of conservatives, so adamantly opposed to having the federal government
infringe upon an individual’s or the Church's rights, having absolutely no problem turning right
around and infringing upon the rights of women. Maybe, the times are once again
changing? I have three daughters, who will one day soon venture out into the
world to fend for themselves, and I have to think ahead and consider what will
be in their best interests then as well as now. I know that contraception is
just one 'issue', but individuals response to this issue speaks volumes about the attitude of larger groups within our country towards the roles that women should play in our society. Quite frankly, the conservative response to this issue is proving to be judgmental,
intolerant --not to mention hypocritical-- frightfully condescending and dismissive to my way of thinking. This is a side to the Republican Party that I do
not like and cannot find any truthful way to appreciate.
Perhaps, for the moment there are bigger issues facing our nation as a
whole? Perhaps, I am wise enough to look beyond this "contraception issue" to the larger issues facing our nation
for now, but I can honestly say that many other women, independents and
moderates will not be willing to do the same.
My family and Republican friends will, of course argue, that I am "being used by the Democratic Party" by succumbing to this "hot-button" issue and that I should "rise above it" ... But how do you honestly rise above BEING A WOMAN? ... Aside from succumbing to suppression and denial by silently smiling and nodding congenially right along to the song of party & religious rhetoric?
My family and Republican friends will, of course argue, that I am "being used by the Democratic Party" by succumbing to this "hot-button" issue and that I should "rise above it" ... But how do you honestly rise above BEING A WOMAN? ... Aside from succumbing to suppression and denial by silently smiling and nodding congenially right along to the song of party & religious rhetoric?
As for Rush Limbaugh's radio comments on Wednesday: they are not worthy of my commenting here, as his remarks were not at all respectful to the law school student, Ms. Fluke --or women in general-- constructive to a meaningful discussion of topic at hand, or worthy of a news-focused, current events radio talk-show host commentator. The latter being said, Mr. Limbaugh's remark to the effect that taxpayer dollars should be used to fund video posting of the promiscuous sexual activities of women who receive "taxpayer funded birth control" ..."so we can all watch"?!? ... does begin to get at the heart of the true root of 'moral decay' in our society.
In closing, I am left wondering ... What does it truly mean to be a good woman? Why are all the 'good women' --in the eyes of conservatives-- remaining silent (i.e., towing the party-line) on this contraception issue? Am I willing to conform "for the greater good" in the short term? And if so, what will happen in the long term?
Alas, Timing is (once again) everything ... As tomorrow finds the State Caucuses upon us here in Seattle and surrounding cities throughout the State of Washington.
Follow-up: On Where Have All the Good Men Gone?
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